“I do not like filiations, can I refuse this pleasure to my friend?”, “I have no desire, what should I do?”, “Am I clitoral or vaginal?”
There are many questions in woman’s mind revolving about your sexuality. So what to do? See below.
1 – My Partner regularly asks me to do a blowjob, I do not like it at all. I made the mistake of accepting once and since he considers it a due: since I am his companion I cannot refuse him this pleasure! What should I do?
Advice – Questions of women Sexuality cannot be exercised in constraint. Your partner probably thinks that you are in love with this pleasure in your relation. But he is mistaken. It is only disgust that grows. He takes the risk of your relationship deteriorating, while seeing you reject all sexuality with him.
You seem hesitant to refuse, as if you adhere to the fact that he has all power over you, that he can impose his only desire! It is, however, should be in sharing and communication that sexual pleasure can truly flourish for the benefit of both partners. The same question sometimes arises with sodomy, sought by some, rejected by others.
2 – Since the birth of our baby, I no longer have sexual desire, I resumed work and in the evening I have only one idea: to sleep. But my spouse does not hear it so. He want sexual intercourse, he says I no longer love him. What should I do?
Advice – The coming of a baby changes the relationship of a couple. It is sometimes difficult for everyone to adapt to this new situation. The two lovers are no longer alone. Very often the mother is monopolized by her new responsibility and care of the baby. Her investment in her own pleasure and sexuality is secondary. The father feels helpless. All his wife’s love goes to the newcomer. And he interprets his wife’s lack of sexual desire as a lack of love for him! As a result, he feels rejected. And the problem grows worse because his attitude is not adequate to renew the dialogue of the bodies. The couple can come out of this impasse through dialogue, the man must be able to say his discomfort in simple words without aggressiveness and the woman can then reassure him on his love. And if really the situation does not improve the consultation of a sexologist should be considered.
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3 – How long can a man stay without sex?
Advice – As much as a woman. That is to say a long time. Some women feel that their spouse cannot survive the lack of sex. In fact, this is not the case. Of course men live very badly with this frustration, but they will not fall ill! What disrupts them most is to lose intimacy with their partner, they fear not to be loved any more, to not having their privileged place. Sharing other activities than sexuality will allow the couple to spend the best period.
4 – I am a little round and I do not like my body, my partner says he loves me as I am but I think he says this to please me. How can I make him understand that as long as I have extra pounds I will not be able to live a full sexuality?
Advice – You are critical on your body which undoubtedly does not correspond to the current standards of the beauty of our society. Your spouse’s eye is not there to assess your compliance with standards! He sees you with the eyes of love and pleasure. Why not believe it when he tells you that he appreciates your body as it is? Why not try to rally in his opinion? And even if you keep the belief that your body is not “aesthetic”, maybe you can accept in moments of privacy to enjoy the sensations it offers you.
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5 – My Partner spends his time on the Internet. He discusses in chats with women and also goes on porn sites. He tells me that this is normal and of no consequence to our couple. I saw this very badly. How to get out?
Advice – You live badly the attraction of your partner for a sexuality and encounters from which you are excluded. For him this is only “virtual” and therefore without consequence. It is important that you can tell her your discomfort. Why does he need this Internet user’s life? He may not know it himself. Perhaps he is looking for a sexuality that cannot be expressed in your couple? Can it be difficult to communicate with you? The important thing is that you get to talk about it and find common ground on this subject that is undermining you.
6 – We have been together for fifteen years. We have regular sexual intercourse but it beards me, although I tell him that I would like more tenderness more caresses, but he does not hear me. Despite many discussions on this subject, nothing changes. What to do?
Advice – Your husband has trouble changing his habits, but on your side you seem pretty passive! Why not propose new ways of doing things? If you fondle him he will take pleasure and will understand better about your expectation. You can also take the initiative of new positions. Changing after so many years is not always easy. The consultation of a sexologist can help you to shake the routine and welcome the novelty!
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7 – Am I Clitoral or Vaginal?
Advice – This is a question that should gradually disappear from the mouths of women! All women are clitoral and vaginal, this distinction does not make much sense. The woman has two particularly sensitive areas: the clitoris and the vagina. The peculiarity of these parts of the body is stimulation that enhances sexual arousal and can trigger the reflex of orgasm. Of course, some women prefer this or that caress, others can access orgasm more easily by stimulating one or the other of these two zones, but for many it is a whole. So even if you have preferences, do not lose anything of all the sensations your body can offer you!
8 – During the penetration I always have pain, my doctor advised me to use a lubricant but that does not suit me as a solution. Why this pain?
Advice – Two main causes cause pain during vaginal penetration: an involuntary contraction of the perineal muscles or a lack of vaginal lubrication. If you feel that your vagina is too narrow or contracted. You will need to consult a sexologist. A sex therapy or psychotherapy approach should solve this problem. Lack of vaginal lubrication is related to sexual arousal. Preliminaries should allow you to relax and provoke sexual excitement. So no need for a tube of lubricant but take the time of intense and inventive preludes.
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9 – I have small breasts. I can never make a man happy. Do I need surgery?
Advice – Men would like only the “big” breasts? As in many areas all tastes are in nature, some find a woman who has small breasts more attractive, others are attracted by the voluminous breasts. But the degree of femininity and sensuality does not depend on the size of the breasts! If you decide to use surgery, be aware that this will probably not change your love life.
10 – I took the pill for a year, and since then I have less sexual desire. Should I stop my pill?
Advice – The action of hormones on sexuality and in particular on sexual desire is now very controversial. The results of studies to demonstrate the deleterious effect of oestro-progestogens on sexual desire are contradictory. It cannot therefore be said that the pill is the issue. Talk to your doctor. Maybe you have to change the mode of contraception. Also know that an unconscious desire for pregnancy can also play a role in this lack of desire.
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