Small quips, guilt, worthlessness.these are the symptoms that perhaps you are the victim of a narcissistic pervert. Here are tips to get out of a toxic relationship.
WHAT IS A PERVERT NARCISSISTIC?
Small quips, guilt, worthlessness. some relationships are toxic and sometimes so insidious that one does not realize its harmfulness and dangerousness. Yet, if you acknowledge your relationship with someone in these few words, it means you may be a victim of narcissistic pervert. Who is he? How to recognize it? And especially how to cope? Because we all have someone in our circle who has been a victim of a narcissistic pervert, these are some keys to detecting these manipulators who are unfortunately more numerous than one might think and especially key to escape from them.
What is a narcissistic pervert?
The perverse narcissist is a person (man or woman) who has a problem with his image. He did not like it, and to survive, he will export the image he has of himself by devaluing the other and making others the culprit of his own shortcomings. The perverse narcissist can be your companion, your friend, your colleague or even someone in your family. It is in any case a person with whom you have a close relationship and manipulates you, you hurt and you do not manage to break out. He managed to convince you that you were guilty of all the evils which he accused you. The perverse narcissist is a patient who, by projection phenomena, will try to make the other patient in his place.
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HOW TO RECOGNIZE A PERVERT NARCISSISTIC?
Often the narcissistic perverts close to perfect. They are charming at first sight and gradually they begin to devalue you and make you feel guilty. The main feature of narcissistic pervert is the paradox of his attitude. It has two different functions depending on the audience before which they are located. They will behave like open minded and pleases people and turn into real executioner when you both are together. Often, the perverse narcissist will precede the devaluation phase ( “You are no toxic”) by a seduction phase ( “I love you, you’re so nice”). Thus, the victim down its guard and is particularly hit by the abrupt change in behaviour. The perverse narcissist is self-centred that requires further perfection. He may be a liar, often very jealous and unfaithful, and cannot stand against criticism.
Some phrases he might say:
“It’s because of you that I’m sick,” “It’s your fault,” “You’re bad”.
ARE THERE ANY PARTICULAR TYPE OF VICTIMS OF NASTY NARCISSISTIC?
In general, victims are generous, sincere, and kind, open to others, are naive and lacking in confidence. Being a victim, it can happen to everyone, but the question is why they let it? Why allow to be treated like this?
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WHAT SUPPORTS NARCISSISTIC PERVERSION?
Where the problem gets tough is that the perverse narcissist always find a reason or justification for you to speak unkindly or belittle you. He never know the guilt and managed to convince you that you were guilty. He poses as the victim and may prove helpful and sweet if it allows him to achieve his objectives. Therefore its Difficult to take the necessary distance to say you do not deserve this. But the greatest gift that you can do it, is to leave.
HOW TO GET RID OF A NASTY NARCISSISTIC?
The first step is to identify the toxicity of the relationship, and understand that you cannot do anything. Whatever behaviour you adopt, the person in front will always find a way to blame you. Once established observation, it is to distance, to finally get to shelter.
Start by putting the narcissistic perverts face realities. Instead of trying to justify yourself when you reproached, ask rather that it is to judge you. When he begins to understand that he is being exposed, he will be destabilized.
This can sometimes take time, because the perverse narcissist does not let you go easily. If as a victim, you do not know where you are, do not hesitate to ask for help to a professional third person (psychiatrist or lawyer). The only way to get out is to actually cut off the relationship by changing the phone number, email. So you can find a good self-image, and realize that in no circumstances you can be treated like that.
It is absolutely necessary to stop wanting to understand the perverse narcissist or find his justifications.
Finally, it is essential to reconnect with loved ones. The narcissistic pervert will certainly detached you from around to get a better grip on you. Find people who greatly help recovering better esteem of yourself.
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