Who says fight in a couple does necessarily mean failure?
All the time the disputes are negative when they occur because of the same trivialities and aggressively. Do not fear the conflict, rather learn to play your role in a healthy relationship to reach a solution of the problem.
Have a clear Objective.
Take some time to think about the purpose of the dispute. If your goal is to make him understand your point of view then the dispute will end when your partner understand. If your goal is to make him/her to do something, ask yourself the question of what exactly you want him/her to do and may be it would not be simpler to ask him directly and calmly. This reasoning could save your lots of absurd and unnecessary disputes.
Do not Ignore.
If your partner exposes his/her arguments to you, do not ignore it while watching TV or dipping your nose in a book. Listen to him/her carefully and be ready to respond. If you think that indifference is the best response to ceases or cry, you are completely wrong. It will effectively annoy more. The best way to avoid it or his/her raised voice is to talk him/her on a calmer tone than normal.
Do not Scream.
Raise your voice will not make you more audible. Screaming adds the contrary animosity to your pitch and it will take away all credibility. You feel he/she understands better if you shout. But in reality, if your arguments are valid, they will make their effect on your partner without screaming.
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Do not insult and never humiliate your partner while in dispute or no dispute. Put yourself in the place of your half, how would you feel if you were insulted or humiliated? Do not do to another what you would not like him/her to do for you. And if your intention is clearly to hurt and make him/her uncomfortable then your relationship will suffer from more serious problems than this simple argument.
Listen to the other.
You quarrel because you think you are right, but keep in mind that you do not hold the absolute truth. So listen carefully to the arguments of your partner and try to understand them. Let him/her talk and present his/her ideas without interruption.
Do not threaten to Break.
An argument is the best time to rehash a possible rupture. First, calm down and ask yourself. Is the relationship really coming to an end and you are ready to make this difficult decision?
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Do not pre text false arguments to take your partner where you want him or her to go. Do not change the real story and do not deny the things you said. Be honest, it was not about winning but to reach an agreement.
Do not back out old files.
If certain subjects resurface your arguments, it is necessary to talk quietly to resolve once and for all. It makes no sense to bring out the old files that have nothing to do with the dispute. Just to hurt the other or to emphasize certain traits of your partner that you do not like. The reason for an argument is the search for a solution to a problem.
Be sincere and honest. If the bottom of yourself acknowledge you being wrong and you know that your partner has a reason to get excited, then ask forgiveness. Also remember to apologize if at some point in the argument, you told him/her something you did not mean. Ask forgiveness does not mean losing, so swallow your pride because your love worth it.
Time for Reconciliation.
The best time of the dispute is reconciliation. Do not be resentful if the dispute is over. Go to hugs!
Studies have shown that the sex of reconciliation is most popular and most beautiful in couples. You should tried it.
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