Kissing your child on the mouth: for some parents this gesture is innocuous and for others, it is totally excluded. But what do specialists think?
According to psychiatrists and psychoanalysts, this gesture is generally to be avoided.
Some parents usually kiss their baby on the mouth which a true sign of affection and love for them. Yet this practice is not to be taken lightly. I do not say that kissing your baby on the mouth is inevitably wrong, each parent does according to their feelings and their culture of origin. But many factors are taken into account. For example, some African women chew the food then put her door of mouth to that of their baby, this is not shocking to them. This is all cultural. Here, kissing her baby on the mouth could be shocking in the social context.
Better to kiss your child on the cheek.
It is better to kiss your child on the cheeks. Besides, this applies to a girl as to a boy, whether it is the father or the mother who has recourse to this practice. For those who think that the kiss of a mother would be more acceptable. Or a kiss to an infant or toddler would be less serious. But It’s wrong. Moreover this practice is discouraged whatever the age of the child.
Social and cultural codes.
In fact, the risk is to put the child at odds. Kids know the codes of our society very well, they know that kissing on the lips is not the norm, so this practice with a parent can destabilize them by touching the limits of incest. The child may be disturbed by this practice. Some children will even push back their parents who wants to kiss them in this way. If the rejection comes from the child, then clearly it is because the malaise is indeed present and they expresses it through their refusal.
On the contrary, if instead of refusing these kisses it is the child who claims it, then you must set limits, as a parent. To do this, you simply have to talk to your child, tell him that he is tall and that now the kisses of mom or dad will be on the cheek. Then he must be made to understand that the kisses on the lips are reserved for adults in love. This is also the clear limits for others, such as with other family members, siblings or grandparents.
But Luv is allowed with your child.
Do not kiss your child on the mouth does not mean that it should be deprived of attentions. On the contrary, kisses and hugs are recommended, but in appropriate places of the body. It is not because the child cannot defend, then one must not respect his integrity.
A Question of hygiene also.
Beyond these psychosocial aspects, embracing your child on the mouth also carries a risk of transmission of infectious diseases. Indeed, the professionals and the authorities of health are unanimous: many infectious germs can be transmitted to the child by this gesture. Because even in the absence of symptoms and outside epidemic periods, you can be carrying viruses responsible for colds, flu, gastroenteritis or herpes. It is not advisable to kiss your baby on the face during epidemic episodes of gastroenteritis or flu.
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